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SILENCE IS NO LONGER AN OPTION: 3 Steps to Breathe Again

  As she reached for the door to enter the apartment building, there he stood with mask over his head and a gun pointed straight at her.  He marched her into the woods.  There he forced her to lay down in the grass and dirt.  With the gun pointed straight at her head, he proceeded to violently take what belonged to her, the most private part of her…. According to rainn.org, every 2 minutes an American is sexually assaulted.  Every 8 minutes, that Survivor is a child.  Meanwhile, only 6 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison.  As a Survivor of sexual assault when I was a child and rape as an adult, I know what it feels like to suffer in silence from the emotional scars left behind from those who hurt me.  I know first had what it feels like to suffer from depression, suicidal thoughts (and attempts), fear, low self-worth—I can go on and on.  I remember feeling like no one understood how I was feeling. Although some tried to be supportive, I felt like they just didn’t get it.  How could they?  After all, I was the one raped not them right?  This is not always the case and if we are being honest here, someone reading this blog right now could be a Survivor of sexual violence still suffering in silence.  Silence is no longer an option; you must break your silence in order to heal.  I have listed 3 steps below to help you break your silence: Pray for assistance and guidance After the second time I was violated at gunpoint in...

3 Reasons Why Sexual Assault Survivors Don’t Tell

  I remember looking in the mirror and thinking, wow girl that mix of cherry and grape Kool-Aid really looks good in my hair this time! How many ladies remember dying your hair with Kool-Aid back in the day? You couldn’t tell me anything. But then the phone rang, and then the doorbell rang and then HE entered my house. I still remember that camouflage army jacket he wore with those black horn-rimmed glasses and those beady little eyes that said so much without him saying a word. Within a matter of minutes, my innocence was taken at the hands of the man my mother was seeing at the time who was attempting to groom me for human sex trafficking. A piece of me died. That 14-year old happy, vibrant, outgoing little girl was left in the basement of my house, left to try and make some sense of what has just happened to her… Fast forward 10 years to that night in November. As I arrived that evening, I was met at the front door of my apartment building by a masked gunman who pointed a pistol at me and demanded my purse. He marched me to a wooded area behind the apartment building, walked around, stood in front of me and put the gun to my forehead. I can still feel the cold steel on my forehead from time to time—when the gun was placed right in the center of my forehead. I begged and pleaded for my life, but what happened next I would never wish on my worst enemy. I clearly remember his chilling last...

Self-Worth: Do you know your value?

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own; you were bought at a price.  Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20   Before I formed your in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart, says the Lord. Jeremiah 1:5   For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14   Hello Beautiful Survivor!   Do you know that you are more precious than silver or gold, diamonds or emeralds, rubies or pearls?  You are worth more to God than any materialistic item in this whole universe.  He created you to do his will; to carry out your assignment He laid before you.   Being sexually assaulted caused me to have little to no self-worth.  I felt lower that dirt; my self-esteem had hit rock bottom as did everything else.  I felt fat and very unattractive–like everyone who looked at me knew that I had been victimized.  So I began to not care less and less about my appearance.  After all, no one man would ever fall in love with a sexual assault survivor right?  After months of wallowing in self-pity and being advised by my family members, I began to yet again, pray to God to help me regain my self-worth.  I’d pray, “Lord, I am your humble servant coming before you just one more...

Ouch! That Hurts

‘They shall be Mine,’ says the LORD of hosts, ‘On the day that I make them My jewels.’ Malachi 3:17 What then shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.  Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you may go. Joshua 1:9   Hello Beautiful! Are you willing to be cut? The life of a diamond is complex from start to finish. A diamond is a mineral made of more than 99.5% pure carbon that is crystallized. The factors which have an influence on a diamond’s color and shape come from the remaining .05% of substance which makes up the diamond. Diamonds are extremely durable and strong, they are in fact the hardest known substance in the world. A diamond crystallizes roughly 100 miles below the earth’s surface. The crystallization occurs so low due to the temperatures and pressure required for the process to occur. The way diamonds were brought to the surface of the earth and hence found was due to volcanic eruptions occurring over 60 million years ago.  The first diamond mine ever discovered was in India before 600 BC. India was renowned for being the world’s largest supplier of diamonds. Many of the known famous diamonds were found in India. However today India only produces a very small percentage of the world’s diamonds. Australia, Israel, America and South Africa are where most of the diamond production occurs today. Diamonds are not found in the...

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